Recently Kanye aka Yeezy went on yet another rant. This time stating that slavery was a choice. Obviously he’s disturbed and I’ll leave it at that. Clearly slavery was NOT a choice, but you you know what is a choice? Friendships. The people you choose to be in your inner circle. Your squad, your tribe. These individuals have your back even when you disregard their sound advice. Your goonies will ride or die for you (This is figuratively speaking. No one is taking a whole bullet for anyone).
This is what TRUE friendship is suppose to look like. However, for some reason there has been a surge in “frenemies” and “Petty Betties” and it seems as if true friendship is becoming more of a fairytale. Urban dictionary defines frenemy as the type of “friend” whose words or actions bring you down.(whether you realize it as intentional or not) The type of friend you ought to cut off but don’t cuz…they’re nice… good …you’ve had good times with them. U know…they’re good people that you can count on to bring you down again sometime in the near future.” https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=frenemy
We all have had frenemies in our lives at some point. Some of you may be dealing them as we speak. Some how, we have convinced ourselves that our history with these “individuals” trump our sanity and that it is ok to keep toxic people around. This is a bold face lie. A myth if you will. Who ever is out here giving this advice should be sanctioned. I am a firm believe that there is a time and place for everything and this includes relationships. An individual who presented themselves as a friend 10 years ago can now be a devil in your life today. People change. Relationships change. What we fail to understand is that not everyone is meant to stay in your life forever. Some of these so called friends should have never been in your live to begin with. (but I will reserve this topic for another blog post)
Being around toxic people serves no purpose but to destroy you, your self-esteem and your confidence. We go through enough as it is with our jobs and family. Why choose to be unhappy? As I have gotten older, I am very very careful as to whom I bestow the title of friend. Friendship is serious. If your so called friend is constantly putting you down, that’s is not a friend, that is a hater. If your so called friend is only happy for you when their life is on a positive track, this is CERTAINLY not a friend. This person needs to be cancelled. Throw the whole “friendship” away!
When it comes to friendships, you have a choice. You can choose to disengage. You can choose to have healthy relationships. Don’t let history make you a slave to anyone. Because at the end of the day, it is your feelings that will be hurt, not theirs. Stop complicating your life with toxic people. Take a stand and choose you!
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